How to make a new mom feel bad...

Let's set the scene. Fifteen new moms eager to network and learn in a church fellowship hall, awaiting the second Baby Talk class run by Public Health. What I gain from meeting with other moms and talking to professionals is far more than what I have to complain about. For example, today I learned that putting your child on the floor is the best way for them to develop and explore their environment. This knowledge was useful because I felt bad laying Ry on the ground to go to the washroom...the swing or chair seemed more appropriate. Although appropriate, the floor is fine! On with the story...back to the fellowship hall.

"Does anyone have a bumbo chair?" the Infant Development Specialist chimes.

A few of us put up our hands. Then we get a rant about all the negative aspects of the bumbo chair. "I have even heard of some parents who put their child in one and then place it on the kitchen table or washer," she chortled.

I am not saying that I would use my bumbo anywhere other than the floor, but I highly doubt these moms are further than an arms reach away.

She finished with, "But, any of these marketed items are fine in moderation."

It was a lame recovery. Our heads were already down. Did we really need to be tricked into admitting a crime we all had no clue we were committing? Next time I hope she generalizes with "some of you may have a bumbo," rather putting us on the spot. The best part, my bumbo is still unused in the box and I felt guilty!

I would like to thank the mom who spoke up when the specialist left the room and said, "I use my bumbo chair on the kitchen table all the time," to reassure us that we were all moms trying our best and no crimes had been committed in the process.

Bible Reflections:

Matthew 7

Do Not Judge

 ¹ “Judge not, that you be not judged. ² For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you. ³ And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye?

-Choose your words carefully, you never know how what you say may affect someone. They may even reveal judgment you were unaware of. When in doubt, do a "Thumper," if you don't gots anything nice to say, say nothing at all. My husband says I over-analyze, so I am at risk of being judgmental. I try to catch myself before I put my foot in mouth by asking, "Does this really matter when the big picture is considered?" If the answer is no, I use an affirmation or compliment instead...which is why I began this blog with a positive! ;)